Thanks for finding me over here...always glad to hear from you. I think you are right...about it all. I do need to learn to pull one car at a time and let the caboose do its thing when the time comes.
Dylan,
Thank you for the warm welcome...it was much needed and much appreciated today. It helps to know that others have had work issues, too, though I am sorry to hear that. Part of my issue - something about me that has changed personally for the better, is that I no longer seek male validation and I think that is having a profound impact on my work relationships.
When this all started, the partners in my firm (I am the only female attorney in a firm of 10) were all very avuncular and protective. I no longer need that and, I feel pretty sure, send that message out loudly and clearly. As a result, I think they are pretty unsure as to how to relate to me. I have always been the fragile little bird for men to protect - learned to play that part really well, too. Then, I realized that this is not who I am, not who I want to be, so I learned to stop playing that role and to be the strong woman that I really am. I think this has created a lot of confusion in my relationships with these men (and my brother for that matter).
I think it is going to take some time for me to figure it all out...this is just my opening attempt. So, I will keep posting as I make my way through this part of the muck.
