strong & patient (most days)

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Karen,

All I can really say is what I know from my experiences. At the time these sort of things happened, the notion of full fledged divorce filings were still in 'threat stage'. And my XW acted out exactly like this, I even documented it here somewhere, she was the same seemingly raving out of control person. Hindsight 20/20, it was all part of the 'master plan' somehow to get the kids. Perhaps so she could in turn say to our kids, "look what your father makes me do", blah blah blah. Because at that time, the kids were confused, highly, and searching out the truth on their own.

But, these ballsy claims he making in emails, removing the child from class, grabbing them out of the car and all, just doesn't add up and it is certainly so easy to say it's the work of a unstable person. However, I learned in my situation, every move XW made had a purpose behind it, be it to push my buttons, win the kids over, or build evidence for something grander down the road, it all had it's purpose.

At this time, I feel you need to stand a stiff ground and keep contact to a bare minimum with him. That's the beauty of all the temp orders, they grant you that sliver of sanity and set forth some ground rules that can stop a lot of this. Also in having them implimented, the judge will take in to concideration how the parties have abided by them in the FINAL orders.

Hope that helps.

Yes, I am reluctantly on FB. Don't use it much either, mainly to chat with my sisters instead of blowing my phone up with a million text messages. But I've gotten down enough and posted something I thought wasn't all that bad, and the next day I have a handful of poeple in person telling me I can't post stuff like that because it's public record and could hurt me when XW and I return to court as I'm sure we will.