I would say now you are at the point I was a couple of weeks ago with our R talk that brought up everything he felt was wrong and I brought up what I felt was wrong and how we had wronged each other.
I know what you mean by your primary LL is the one that will start to refill the love tank, been there, done that.
Honesty and truth hurt sometimes, but it all has to be got out in the open for you both to truly move forward with each other, otherwise you both will continue to harbour anger or resentment over issues. So in a nutshell the hurt has to come to the surface for the healing and birth of your new M & R to begin.
At least that is what we found. We have now closed the doors on the past, we discussed it, dealt with it, apolgised to each other for it and then shut the door and locked it.
