In Compassionate Marriage, it describes how usually one person in the R is an Avoidant Personality. That's how your W and mine are. With that said, knowing what you know about that side of her, how can you communicate to her in a way that feels "safe" to her.
Crack that mystery and you'll be able to gain your W's trust back. Once you get that, you'll be able to become intimate again.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.