"Again, talking about those things are what I need, to heal, to understand, to KNOW she gets it, but she still avoids. Because if I don't truly KNOW she gets it and understands just what her betrayal has done, how do I know it won't happen again?"
BUT....I think there is a difference between us LBS and the "Other". AS much as I / WE would LOVE to hear the "I'M Sorry" I think our wives just want to forget about it. I think deep down our W Know what they did was wrong. Deep down I am sure that if they could have a "Do Over" it would not have happened. I tell ya Bud I used to love the song by Toby Keith "What happens in Mexico stays in Mexico” but now it makes me Mad. I think we are like the kids that were so used to our parents protecting us from the mean outside world. Thinking nothing like that happens to us… to becoming aware that things like this do happen. Hey dude you are a lot farther along than me so keep up the good work. MAYBE in about 10 years we will be able to talk to our wives about what happened. But for now…..all we can do is Just go with the flow……….
Take care Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
