STBX just came by to pick up D14. She rang the doorbell and waited a minute. Usually she calls D14 in advance and she is ready when she gets here so she doesn't have to come to the door.
I went from my office to the door, saw D14 standing at the bottom of the stairs saying to me "Who's at the door?". I said "It's your mom of course, go get your stuff".
So, I go to the door and open it, standing to the side so she can come in of course. She just stands there until I say "Come on in, D14 is getting her stuff packed up".
So she comes in and I say "I guess she didn't know you were coming now since you usually call. She says "Well I TOLD her I would be here around 3 (It's 3:20) but I guess I'm a little late."
I said "Well you know how she is with time, and I'm sure she didn't want to sit in the living room waiting around" I smiled as I said this, thinking that somehow she felt like I was criticizing her.
So she says "When are you going to get your paperwork to Suzie??" She is our Legal aid person doing the divorce paperwork. I told her that I will have it by the end of the week as I have to call creditors to get current balances.
D14 came downstairs with her stuff, gave me a pleasant "Bye Dad!" and as they left she said "I'll see you at the school at 8 tomorrow".
Man, it is so hard to talk to her sometimes when she takes everything I say as criticism. It's easier to just not say anything.
I suspect that D14 dumped a lot of stuff on her, and some of it was related to me and mistakes I made. So she has a lot of resentment towards me. Maybe a year from now she'll be beyond that. Tomorrow morning with the school counselor will be loads of fun.
