I have heard of Hysterical Bonding that goes on when things start to mend in these situations.
I also dont think that fusion to a certain point is a bad thing, as long as people maintain their individuality, and respect their spouses individuality as well.
I think that your in that honeymoon phase again, lucky you!
With as far as youve come, dont forget that patience is what got you here!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...