Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

25mlc,

Thanks. It makes perfect sense. I do get the detachment issue and right now I'm getting rid of the fear that I was gripped with from a couple of weeks ago. One day at a time.

I know it's normal for us "healthy" folks to want to help someone who we see as hurting and that's the part I need to detach from. I know for a fact that if we didn't have kids, I would've told her a long time ago to go out and find herself while I do my own thing.

When I went to see a T, he asked me why I wanted to stay married to my W. My W asked me the same thing. I think it's exactly what you said about your H. After I thought about things, I realized that she is who I wanted to be with. I've met other women and know for a fact I can get someone within a month if I really wanted to. But that's not my thing. She was/is my best friend and mother of my kids. We've gone through alot together and she needs to get through this part of her life journey on her own. I've just shown her that it's safe to come home if she chooses to.

But I'm going to continue doing my own thing and be happy in my own skin.