God, isnt that funny.. I just came here to post those exact same horoscopes from Madalyn Aslan !!! I checked them thinking of you, seems you beat me to it, being 2 hours ahead ;-)
I think she is so spot on.
How are you? I'm feeling a bit lonesome! Back to work and home and me and bf are fine, but still noone calls us :-( Maybe we should issue a press release.. we dont need to be left in privacy anymore, normal service has resumed !!!!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
So..., stbxH has been quiet and me too. This morning he calls and I ignored his calls and then sends me a message saying :I am in ER with major pains.
So I call back and he cant speak. His father is there and tells me he is in very bad state, in big pain, cant talk and they are taking him for cat scans etc but they think it is kidney stones(?)
So I go to the hospital and get there in a couple of hours and he is asleep. FiL says they dont know yet what it is, they had ruled out heart and still think it is a stone but cant see it. They had given him shots (3!!!) for the pain and to calm him down.
His phone rings and he wakes up and when he sees me, he extends his arm (the one had IV) and signals to go to him. I go, and he huggs me tight and starts kissing me(not on the lips, the hands, the arms,my chest, anywhere he can reach). His dad is speechless and leaves the room. He wont let leave his bed and I politely push him away and go to a chair across the room.
We talk and chat and he has tests and they finally see a big stone which they told him may be from bad eating habbits (and looks at me sad when he tells me, my cooking was always FOR me, LOL).
I stay there until he left the hospital and he asks for me, 2 or 3 times to go beside him and starts kissing me again, squeezing me, my legs, my arms... The one time he started kissing me on my lips and I make it clear NOT to go there. It was very intense. The docs come in and he keeps saying "my wife, my wife will come with me, tell my wife etc etc".
When we leave, his sister takes him to the house, I tell him if he needs anything to call and asks where am I heading. I told him to my house and he seemed sad.
I get home and 1 hour later he calls and says he wants to come over to see the kids since he is not working. He does come and reads to the kids, we put them to bed and then ...we TALK!! ABout the elections, our friends, the pain he felt, the kids. Normal, easy stuff. He linegered but I didnt offer him to stay and he said he should leave. I said "fine, get well soon" and show him to the door. He hugs me and starts kissing me again (NOT to the lips this time).
He was surprised I showed up (especially since I took my time) and our hugs and kisses felt genuine. He came by because he felt this is where he should be and to be honest, seeing him so weak and exhausted, I thought the same thing... K
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Gosh, is he ok now ??? What a drama, seems he really is genuine, even in a delirious in pain state, he can only think of you and wants to hug and kiss you. Wow his Dad must've been like, WTF is going on now !?? Its kinda sweet though hey?
Hey, I am glad your party won the elections !! And glad it wasnt a heartattack or anything for H, although, sounds like it was a major wake up call ! Were you scared? Did you worry there was something seriously wrong with him? x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Well, I was pretty cool about it, was heading to a meeting, wasnt going to go, but when he couldnt speak to me..., I somehow thought he wanted me there. His message was "I am in ER with major pain, JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW" as if... whatever, too romantic I guess.
He is ok, with drugs and needs to check if the stone is out soon, if not he will have a small procedure in 20 days.
Yes, he was genuine, when he saw me, his face said everything. As if I was the only person he needed to see. And driving all the way here tonight..., he needed to be with me, not the kids. And all the kissing, that was completely unfiltered, like he didnt care about anyone, you know? I felt my pulling back, was a bit disappointing to him, but hey..., he wasnt dying!!!
FiL said he was hardly concious when he sent me the message, before the shots and trying really hard to send it. It had many typos... K
It is interesting the emotions a person will go through when they are in pain (or under some pain relieving drugs). I have no doubt that you are still very very dear to him.
But why did this knucklehead still betray you for such a long period of time? It's like the thing I just read from Jennifer on FB is true...
"women are crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are stupid."
I have heard that passing a kidney stone is about the most pain one can endure. And it can be from diet high in purine foods which accounts for excess uric acid in the bodies system. There can be other factors beside foods that cause the uric acid build up. Maybe FIB can talk more on length about how to prevent kidney stones since I am not a real doctor - I only play one around my kids.
I had a case of gout (from uric acid crystalizing) in my big toe joint a few years back and my doc recommended never to eat animal organs again. He also recommended taking Omega 3 fish oil tablets. So far so good - no more gout for this boy.
Ok in his own stupid and painful way it was romantic. Certainly not something that was thought out. So in that instant he gets the clarity of what YOU mean to him. What he really doesn't get since a vast number of men are stupid, is what it will take to win your heart back. He does not understand what this has done to your heart.
Maybe you should leave him with this premise...we have been married a number of years and have built a life and created a family. I in a moment of insanity begin an affair. It is just a lark at first and then I begin to wonder if I could possibly love this man. I move out and over a period of 3 years carry on this alternate life not fully kown by you. Now the truth is out, please think with your heart what I would need to do to show you that I love you and only you and that I deserve this final chance to make things right between us. Then you need to do that times 10.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I think that is very encouraging, K. When push came to shove, as we say over here, he wanted YOU. He asked for YOU. And when you came, he reached for YOU.
That is awesome. I know the rest still sucks, the whole affair and lying and his seeming inability to make changes and take steps, actions to show his love.
But that interaction at the hospital and after, to me that sounded very encouraging. The thing is I wouldn't wait to say something, if you are going to say something about trying again. I wouldn't let the moment pass...
He also recommended taking Omega 3 fish oil tablets. So far so good - no more gout for this boy.