1. Probably a little bit of fusion is OK and perhaps unavoidable but not sure where the line is. Differentiation is the optimum but not so separate from the other as to be a lack of caring, aloof, or self-centered.
2. "Never want to let you go" as in cuddly things = not a problem. As in "No, don't ever leave me or I will be helpless" = problem.
There's been discussion on the boards about the Hollywood, "You complete me" or "I'm nothing without you" BS that does a big disservice towards relationships. You need to be something to yourself before you can be something to anyone else.
T Nhat Hahn said in one of his talks, "To love is to be there." He later explained that it not only meant be there for someone else but to be present for yourself. To be awake, aware, and complete.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
