Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Yes Kat, thats very insightful of you! She wasnt an ow in the sense its used around here, no I agree. He has had some dealings with her at work, just purely formal work emails he said, but I'm not bothered (thank goodness!). As for your guy, wow, I didnt realise you two were emailing all this while? I'm guessing he is still with the gf??

Hey GAG.. your story sounds alot like mine.. we reconnected LAST February and spent increasing amounts of time together (practically whole weekends by June/July time) and I too couldnt fathom his resistance to getting back with me, despite he clearly still cared and was displaying loving feelings even, just the same. He then, inexplicably stopped all contact and started dating Helen. He said they got close at work, it just happened and he didnt mean it to. He has since explained it was "madness", but that perhaps he wanted our breakup to make sense (as it didnt) and it was something new and different but looking back it was a ridiculous decision.

As for then breaking up with her and coming back to me... basically, he missed me. His BMF told me, keep doing what you are doing.. just being you, because thats what he misses. Also, it helped my cause that she was a PITA and shouted at him alot. THey had a massive row on 13th Feb.. our 10 year anniversary I just found out. He said he was sat there, being shouted at,thinking... Al wouldnt shout at me like this, ever.

I asked him before what changed, why did he decide to give it another go, was it something I did, or was it just he had to arrive at that decision in himself? (the convo is on one of the pages of this thread somewhere).. he said, no, it wasnt me as such, just that he finally started to wake up and decide he had to do what was best for him and make better decisions, that he is slow to process things, but he just slowly got to that point in himself. I also think me letting go a bit more helped.

I will ask him again though! If I can (its tricky this week, he is fed up to be back at work.