A tip my DB coach gave me also about questions for WAS is this: "Don't ask questions beginning with 'why' or "how could you', b/c those are designed to put the person on the defense". "WHY are you doing this to us? HOW Could you treat your family this way???"""
I think you could generalize it even more - avoid the "You" questions or accusations. Stick with the less accusing "Me" feel statements.
BTW 25... A had a nice lady that is a lawyer start emailing me the other day. And it seems we have a lot in common. I really like how she says her occupation does not define her. That is how I feel about my boring occupation (computer programmer). She sure seems to have a great attitude about coparenting, putting feelings aside for the sake of the kids and not getting stuck on the past. She acknowleges that her X is a super dad just as I say the same about my X being a great mom.
But you are right about the whole dating thing. It can be a bit nerve racking to meet new people. Especially when one is a shy computer geek like myself.
