R2C - Thanks for spelling it out so clearly in black and white. Sometimes I get lost in translation and need a splash of water to the face so to speak to get a clear course of direction and proceed down the path of what it is that I truly want. A true set of goals to measure accomplishments and progress by.
YES - I do want H still. I am still very afraid of what if I do get H back, what will change or be different as far as our core issues were, still are? But I suppose that is par for the course and I will have to cross one bridge at a time in all this.
YES - I want to have fun in this process!
Therefore, I will commence following the next three steps that you outlined. Hope you will pop in to check up on my endeavors!
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
Puppy - Thanks for the tip! I will look SmileyPerson up. Right now I am half-way through poster Dia's diary and have gained valuable communication and flirting techniques from her experiences. I can certainly use all the MOJO ampage I can get!
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
Well, H came home for lunch as usual. I was in my bedroom getting ready. Had doctor's appt. to have stitches removed from my shoulder surgery almost two weeks ago. Decided to look REALLY good today. Had cute little flirty sundress on with some cute wedge heels, hair and makeup done, smelling sexy. Went out to LR/Kitchen area and walked by office. H was in on computer. I said a very friendly "Hey!" and received one back. Then H "Come here, listen to this." and reads me this article on worst cars he found entertaining. I engaged him and laughed, stood close enough so he could get a whiff of my "scent" with confident and secure body language oozing as well. I walked back to kitchen to make myself some lunch after he was done reading. Humming and making my lunch, few minutes later, H from other room "Where are you going all dressed up?" I chuckle inside with smile on my face "Oh, I have a doctor's appt this afternoon." H - "Dressed like that?" Me - "Well, I have a couple other things to take care of afterwards." H came in kitchen and had a little more light conversation. Before he left, I caught H watching me as I was eating my soup. In my mind I was pretending the spoon was a little naughty thing and let my mouth savor it while eating. As R2C suggested, this is getting fun!
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
I chuckle inside with smile on my face "Oh, I have a doctor's appt this afternoon." H - "Dressed like that?" Me - "Well, I have a couple other things to take care of afterwards." H came in kitchen and had a little more light conversation. Before he left, I caught H watching me as I was eating my soup.
Very nice! You created some mystery.
You did perfect!
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Fantastic!!! I put on colonge every now and then. I never wore it before the bomb. I remember the first couple of times doing so I could actually hear her say what the hell are you up to, without her saying a word.
