I'm new wondering if this works...

[Day by Day]

Hi Hope4Luv, I'm seeing another similiarity in our H's. Mine is also a workaholic and perfectionist.

I wanted to share some info I just got from my D13. She is concerned about H and she went to talk to the pastor. (She's probably going to grow up to be a counselor.) She came back with some very interesting info from him. The pastor said that the stonewalling is his way of dealing with his feelings by not dealing with them. The anger is easier to deal with than being sad and helps him feel in control. When D asks H about the situation, he just replies I love you and won't discuss it.

One thing he said she could do is mention to him that he seems sad or depressed. I also read this in one of the many books I'm reading... that you can be like a mirror and reflect what they are feeling, that "you look sad".

I do feel it is depression in my H's case too. Just wish he would recognize it instead of keeping himself so busy to numb himself.

Day by Day