Originally Posted By: Thinker


In my sitch I had to set 2 firm boundaries:

1) I am not going to tolerate being lied to.

2) I am not going to live in an open marriage or otherwise share my wife with any other man.

These are really hard.


BINGO. Yes, they are. But they are also ESSENTIAL for your own emotional well-being and survival. In my case, I also had the above two, but I also added:

3) No texting or phoning OM from inside of our family's home;

4) No phoning OM in front of the kids, whether you're home or elsewhere; and

5) I will not spend our family's income on your affair -- tummy tuck Visa payment, lingerie, cellphone, etc. I'm cutting it off (and I did).

Puppy