kevin, I agree with everything you wrote above. The following question however is totally irrelevant as far as I am concerned.
how do you think you W will respond to knowing that you were snooping?
personally IF my spouse is cheating and lieing to my face in the process, the last thing I am worried about is how he / she responds to my snooping.
As I mentionned earlier, I agree with the rest of your post....make sure you can handle what you find. The reason why it nearly destroyed you is because you were willing to bet 1 million dollars, therefore, you thought; no way not her. Well, I was willing to bet alot less...so perhaps it hurt less. If I had a donut for every person on these boards that thinks that their spouse is not (was not or is not on the verge of being) involved with someone else....well I would have difficulty getting in and out of my clothes.
