Hi R2C - I think you hit the nail on the head as far as my turning off my sex appeal. I know for sure that I did that through the years. I started getting/bringing my MOJO back during our last separation period 2 years ago, but started feeling myself slip back into old patterns/habits especially at the beginning of this year. Since the Bomb in May I have taken the initiative to dress sexy, look my best all the time. I can tell he has noticed by little comments and looks now and then, but for the most part, it seems like OW still has the upper hand in that dept, which I know is the way it is going to be right now, but still sucks. I haven't read those two books and will be finding them asap!! I am willing to try anything I can at this point and definitely need help with learning how to flirt and be seductive!!!
FG,
If you want to find out how one gets their MOJO back, then look up a poster name SmileyPerson's threads.
Block out several WEEKS -- there's that much in there (he's an extraordinary writer, and chronicled in detail all of his interactions with his wife). So far, they have not reconciled, but that's more HIS choice than hers at this point, and I personally wouldn't bet against them. The important thing is HE got his mojo back, BIG time, and he used that word a lot in his posts.
DBing is all about making yourself the more attractive option. Establish boundaries, and don't be a doormat, but yeah -- BE that better option, and shine a light back towards your marriage.
