I wouldn't cancel something that's already set. But don't push for more. The more you pursue, the faster she will run. You can count on that.
There's a difference between backing off and ignoring. As far as talking about the R, don't ask her what she is doing, or planing. Don't tell her what you are doing or planning.
Nothing is going to happen quickly. You didn't get to where you are quickly, either, if you look back on it.
