What to do when H doesn't contact?

[RedSoxFan]

I know I need to detach. Just having a really hard time doing it.

We're all right there with you. All of the advice in the world about detaching doesn't make sense until it clicks. Each person gets it when they're ready to get it. If you can somehow find a way to trust the process and the people on the site offering you advice, then you can begin practicing the various approaches and techniques for detachment, GAL, 180, etc. If you do that, you'll start to realize that it works. You'll start to feel better...and...it will click. You'll find yourself smiling when you would have been crying or frowning the week before. I know you're already doing some of this stuff. Just keep pushing...Fake It Until You Make It!!! Things will fall into place more quickly that way.