Hey BBJ, you have no idea how many times I felt like writing something similar. Instead I used the white glove approach in order not to offend you (most posters did or do the same). I do not know the answer to that question. I know that I would not want to spend another minute of my life in the presence of such a person regardless of his or her excuses. I told K the same thing a while ago, at the end of the day your happiness is what matters. However, we are not talking about a one night stand or several weeks. Their actions show a TOTAL disrespect for you and your feelings ...TOTAL. When they were in the throws of this LONG AFFAIR, they could not care less about the effects it would have on you or your family. If they did they would have stopped and at least tried to make it right (I include my exwife in this discussion). So what kind of person does this (over an extended period of time)? A selfish person who cares ALOT more about themselves than anybody else. Can they change? Maybe a little.....but there is no way that these folks will ever put someone else before them.....this was not a mistake, a momentary weakness, this was and IS much more than that. This is utter disregard for your spouse and your family...I know it hurts to think that about our spouses but it is what i feel.
