Read up on codependency.

In a nutshell, it is when you become so obsessed with controlling another persons behavior, that you become (a bit) crazy yourself.

We've all battled codependency a bit here.

That is the real risk here. It makes complete sense that your wife's behaviour is hurting you so you want to stop her, but...

...you can't.

Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2
M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08
Walking away from a bad situation.

My Sitch

Strength and Compassion
No Resentment