I can't help you there.

In my sitch I also had a long strugle with it and ended up not contacting OM's W.

the argument for it is that if there is an A, she also has the right to know about it.

Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2
M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08
Walking away from a bad situation.

My Sitch

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