You can do it. Just remember it takes real hard effort on your part each day. You have to put in the effort. There is no question but that it is work. I am now starting to see what people mean about putting the work in. It is work mentally and emotionally to not let yourself stay stuck in a depressed hopeless state. You really have to focus and that is work. If you don't, you stay stuck and in misery. You can do it. I am having to and it is working and will work.
A friend of mine that I pretty much lost told me they didn't want to hang out with me this past Saturday night and that I needed to spend that time working on me. So I went clothes shopping and got some new things I liked that I look better in. I started cleaning up my apartment and making it look nice the way I liked. I just focused on me Saturday and I felt better after. I thought to myself, I can do this. I can spend time by myself and be productive and appreciate what I was able to do. It took mental effort, but I did it. And I am trying to apply that effort each day now.
It will take work to not fall into that trap of "WO is me". But after a while, it will be natural to look to the positive side of life and do for yourself and be happy.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...