Wife says she wants me to move on

[lonelywolf]

Well, I had some advice, but Phoenixdeux's last paragraph was pretty much what I was going to say. It's paradoxical, but a lack of contact seem to help - see the "last resort" techniques in DR. Constant contact often just reminds them of all the reasons they want to split up with you, but leave them in the dark and they wonder what you're doing and start to become more interested in you again.

I say good on you for wanting to wait until the divorce is final to start dating again. I know that's not the choice everyone makes, and it works for some people to start dating before it's final, but I think we need more people who just say that marriage is so sacred that even when its on the rocks and headed for total disaster, it should still be treated as something special.

But that's just me - I won't argue that everyone should do it because from reading these forums, dating again before the divorce was final actually helped save some marriages, and I'm all for saving marriages.