I wouldn't see why keeping spirits up should be neccessary?

Look at it this way, you have nothing to lose. Unless you're still looking at the ascpect of what was, and if so that is gone, and it's onw time to work with what is.

Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11