Wife says she wants me to move on

[brknheart]

My wife and I detached from each other over 2 mths ago (not in love with me), separated over a month ago. Before the separation she wanted to work things out but needed space, 2 weeks after she told me she doesn't want to work on the marriage and wants a divorce. Ive given her space but every time I see her she insist that we are getting a divorce and she will probably not change her mind. She is 99.9% sure she wants the divorce. One of the main reasons is she said she gave me chances over the years and she doesn't want to waste anymore time. She has done some really fked up things since the separation, said some hurtful things. She also confused me several times by leading me to believe shes not sure what she wants, but this is only when the emotional barrier she built is down (her guard down). She tells me that I keep getting ideas and only see what I want to see, make things sound like what I want to hear and not what she is actually saying. She spent the night last Thursday (intimate) and Sunday, but she says nothing has changed. Before she left, she was sleeping in another bedroom, closed the door when dressing, wore robe to bathroom, etc. The other day she didnt do any of those things, she seemed comfortable with me. She insist on me moving on, even said I should start seeing other people. I know she isnt seeing anyone, so it makes me wonder if she is just saying those things to see what I would do. Regardless, I couldnt bring myself to date anyone at least until the divorce is final. Sunday night she "gave in" to me and said the only thing she can give me right now is 1-2 nights a week to spend time with me. We could go out to a movie, dinner, etc. It wont be as a couple, more like friends. Im on the fence on whether I should even do this, since it may make things worse between us. Having no contact seems to make things worse, drift her further apart from me. I dont want to set myself up for disappointment again. I am debating on whether to just let her go and throw in the towel. Give her what she wants. Things that Ive been thinking about a.) family has said things they wouldnt have said in the past, hates how she is handling this situation, even if we get back together how will my family handle it b.) will I always be worried if she would do this again, especially if we have a kid c.) do I want this to work because i was comfortable. d.) we still have 4.5 mths before we could even get a divorce, it seems like an eternity, should i go on with my life, make plans to move back to family, nobody knows what can happen in these 4.5 mths.