strong & patient (most days)

[dday101798]

Oh snap,

Karen, how serious is the suicidal stuff? That was a HUGE factor in me losing my battle, although in mine, my "suicide letters" were song lyrics I jotted down.

Call your Dr. ASAP and instruct them they are to release those records to NO-ONE without your consent (should be anyways under the H.I.P.P.A. regulations).

And, the flagrent acting out and cussing on the school grounds, been there done that.

Your stbx is showing a lot of dangerous signs my X did to really drag out some dirt, watch yourself!

[karen43]

I was seriously, seriously depressed. When X told me our M was over and he was in love with another woman, and then a couple days later my brother had a brain tumor (luckily was benign) I felt it too much to handle all at once. I was seriously depressed and got on ADs and therapy. X was also really insulting/criticizing/yelling at me that last year so my self-esteem was non-existent. I wonder if he planned even then all this stuff so far in advance, or maybe he's just an a$$....

I have been getting progressively better the past 2 years though, but I would say for at least a month I was a total mess, but luckily my Christian beliefs and I'm not sure either a wimp or some strength in me stopped me from trying anything. I feel like an a$$ now that I ever thought X was so important to have in my life (ha!) and my brother is fine now.

I was thinking about emailing my L about what happened this morning. If nothing else, maybe she could email his L and warn him not to intimidate/harass me like that, and make it on the record and stuff. That such a person could get full custody of my kids....

[dday101798]

I wonder if he planned even then all this stuff so far in advance, or maybe he's just an a$$....

maybe she could email his L and warn him not to intimidate/harass me like that, and make it on the record and stuff. That such a person could get full custody of my kids....

1st, in hindsight, my XW clearly had stuff planned out for a long time, atleast on the aspect of getting rid of me and gaining custody.

Second, definately. Be great if you had witnesses, but none the less, with some of his e-mails, you could also persue a temporary order of protection.

[karen43]

He's been calling me several times this morning. I'm expecting a call from the pastor so been answering, but I think I will let it go to voice mail, and the pastor should understand. He has emailed me and was ? me accusing me of lying and/or pulling out the 2 doses of meds as proof that I was plotting to have her last night. (Actually I just went to the pharmacy last night so I would have her meds but don't feel the need to explain that to him.) So I plan to email him this: (Any suggestions or anything)

I gave D9 her meds at 7pm last night and 7 am this morning (antibiotics and her regular meds) as I emailed you earlier. I have been planning on having the kids Tuesdays for prior reasons we have discussed, and have emailed you that many times. I would appreciate it if you would stop calling me but just email, and do not confront me or yell at me at D9's school or anywhere else for that matter.

[dday101798]

Personally,

Don't email him sh!t. If anything, "have your L contact mine". Done.

Save your phone records, and if you can, surely get him on voice mail and SAVE IT!

The only thing that would have incriminated my ex to her behavior was her VM's and texts, and guess what, she gained access to the home just to get a hold of my phone and wipe it out completely!

[karen43]

I didn't email back. I think he did have his L contact mine. She emailed me that I need to call her about Mike's complaints re: homework & obstruction. I put a call into her vm, and I'm also going to email her.

I have always done her homework with her each day I have her and even some of his (so she can get ahead), but wasn't able to get it last Friday to pick up early (as I've been doing) b/c her teacher was not there in class last week. So I guess in his mind that is somehow my fault. And you know about my obstruction!!!

[dday101798]

He's a loon, but a methodical one. Mcuh like my X.

On a lighter note and looking at this, I think it would be purley beatiful poetic justice for WAS' who act out like this to end up with one of their own. That would be great! Your X like red-heads? Mine has an 'open realtionship', so maybe we could force them upon each other.

[kat727]

So he didn't take them yesterday? That is great news if I understood your post correctly. What is up with the L stuff? Did you get your stuff done for the pastor? Ok I am done being 2.

kat

[NoCodeBlues]

Wow! Karen, Your H is simply not to be trusted. Like Dday suggests, tell H to have his L talk to your L. And most definitely report this to your L. Your H is crazy like a fox, and he's hoping to get his way through bluster and bluff.

I cannot believe how unconscionable your H is behaving -- in public even. And pulling your D out of class just to interrogate her?!? He will stop at nothing.

On the suicide thing, given the extreme circumstances I think it highly understandable. I would say that if any LBS never, not for even a nanosecond, ever called into question their reason for living in the face of such a travesty, then perhaps they must not have really valued their M in the first place.

(Thankfully, God is there to catch us when we so fall, if we let Him.)

(((((HUGS)))))

[mishka422]

Karen, I can tell you I had major meltdowns and suicidal thoughts and writings after the bomb too but thankfully my xh never used that as a weapon. He never actually wanted custody at all so not a problem for me. You did all the right things. You got help, got meds, and got healthy. If anything, you proved that you are the more responsible parent. You were proactive in helping yourself!