Robx - I made my post above without seeing your post first. Not sure why I didn't see it.
I have been really trying to care for her. As noted, she is having several health issues and I have done literally everything I can do to help. I even managed to get a new family doctor - a feat that is virtually impossible here in Ontario. And yes, I have done all this expecting nothing in return. Really. I must say if actually feels good to do good with no expectations.
I agree that a genuine apology is needed. I just don't think she is ready to really hear it yet. I'm not afraid to do it, I just want to make sure it's done at the right time. It will be genuine, as I know I really am sorry for my past behaviour. Things I said and did made a woman who adored me, no longer want to be near me. That's a tough thing to accept, but it's true.
I am having a tough time finding the right line between giving her space and trying to be there for her while she is ill, her grandmother is dying and she is very stressed at work.
I don't think I am seeming needy anymore. I don't even feel as needy as I did. I will pay more attention to my body language.
Thanks for stopping by. I always appreciate your blunt approach.
