Advice on DB-ing when sep spouse lives at home

[cat04]

I believe GOD shows us positive encounters sometimes to keep us standing when we feel like giving up.

Yes He does just that.

[cat04]

TF,

You are doing what is working for you right now. That is what is important even if some people don't agree with it. There is no way to speed this all up, so sometimes just maintaining peace and a friendly environment is the BEST thing you can do.

You sound good.

[trustingfaith]

Thanks Grace. Do you have a current thread? I can't seem to find one. Yes, things are pretty liveable right now so that makes this bearable.

Cat, I am feeling good for the most part and feel like I am finally living this detaching thing. I have been doing some reflecting this week and that statement I have seen once in awhile on here is such a good reminder - really, what is a couple years in the scope of a lifetime?

And I have looked back to the way things were around the bomb (6+ months ago) and even before, and things are better - he is not being mean and picking fights which is a big improvement. I no longer walk around with that constant ache in the pit of my stomach on the verge of tears. In fact, life otherwise is enjoyable! Of course I still have moments/days of being sad, mourning what is lost but that is natural and necessary. Now I can pick myself up pretty fast from it.

[Mach1]

TF.....

I can't speak for my friend Gracie here.....but most of us that have been doing this for a while tend to not have them....

For most of us in MLC territory, most of what we do is try to help others understand what they are dealing with.

Occasionally, someone will start a new one just to have a "home" here.

I've never had one.

But that doesn't mean you shouldn't post what you are dealing with. It really does help you to get those feelings out there...and VENT..

Speaking of threads.....MJ, just start one here and I'm sure someone here will link up for you....

MLC is a different animal than the other threads here....

Dealing with the craziness is mind boggling...

The goal is to become survivors, regardless the outcome....

[Grace_O]

Hey Mach!


Faith,

I don't have a current thread. I just come and hang out some.

I did the H at home thing for 15 months post bomb. It's a hard row to hoe.

You're doing good.

You can always find me on the alt if you want to

[cat04]

TF,

The reason I started mine again was simply to have a "home" as Mach put it. But it is a playplace and a home for all really IMO. As you see, I don't go there too much. LOL

You are doing great and have come a long way. Just remember, the most important thing to remember, is that this IS a long road, and just like our wonderful MLCer's, we go up and down too. It's ok, just the process. The key is not getting stuck for too long.

MJ,

Join us over here. We will take care of you as best we can getting you all linked up. Not me cuz I don't know how but someone will...

[Mach1]

Hey Mach!

Hi Gracie ! How goes it ?

You can always find me on the alt if you want to

Hmmmmmmm

[trustingfaith]

I wouldn't be as far along as I am without the help of all of you! And truly knowledge is power. If I hadn't done all the reading I had I would probably still be lost and would NOT be putting up with this stuff. You all give such great advice, too. So thanks.

[trustingfaith]

Originally Posted By: Grace_O


You can always find me on the alt if you want to




Hmmmmmmm

Got it Mach - thanks.

[Grace_O]

Hi Gracie ! How goes it ?

Sideways. My preferred mode of transport