Thanks guys,

Consensus is no e-mail. I think I have been changing. I know it doesn't sound like on here, but this is where I come to get relief from my thoughts. I find it easy to spew here rather than keeping it bottled up inside. Thanks for listening. The fact is, I haven't contacted W since she started pulling back. I don't believe I have pursued. I will take the advice and wait for her to come back to me (if she does). I did go away alone for a weekend shortly after the seperation. I have played soccer a couple of times. I run, I prefer the outdoors to the gym. I can tell that I am slowly getting a better handle on my feelings; but they don't just go away overnight.

Have you guys ever taken the Meyers-Briggs test? I am an INTJ, which means I naturally have laser-like focus on ONE thing. In some situations, like my profession as a software developer, this is a quite a talent. I have found that in this one, however, it has caused nothing but heart-ache.

Speaking of INTJs, I went to Wikipedia and found this: "Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel ... This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals ... Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense."

No wonder I am confused. LOL

Thank you all. Regrouping and moving on.


Me: 36, W: 33, M: 10 yrs
Bomb: 1/09, Seperated: 9/09, Piecing Begins: 10/09

My story: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...t=91&page=1