My sitch...long but please indulge me

[billclay18]

I've noticed an interesting cycle with W and me. Something happens like my asking for a copy of separation agreement last week, she gets really mad. I think it's all over for sure.

I know what you mean. W sends email asking about D paperwork. I "happily" tell her I'll put it in the mail. She responds seeking equity from the house. I tell her there is none. Two days later she emails with some news on some friends of ours and to see how my D11 is doing with no mention of paperwork or house.

Time to stir the pot I guess. What do I have to lose?

Yep, they're definitely processing stuff which means there's hope.

Please expound on this.

Its hard to key in on everyone's cycles around here. We all seem to have our routines of ups and downs going through this stuff. I'm feeling more and more like the lows are shallower and shorter. I feel like I do so much better with W when I'm in control and optimistic. I'm kind of on or off. I own the world or it owns me. I'm owning it a lot more lately.

Seems like you're on a down swing lately. What's it going to take for you to get life by the horns again??

Not sure if it's a down swing or just nearing the point of moving on and throwing in the towel. Your sitch is much different. You have a need to "right a wrong" which is understandable, you obviously love your W very much, want to keep your family together and lastly avoid the financial downfall for both of you.