wow etrain, I am in a very similar situation, except she is living w/ the inlaws right now. We have a 1 yo little boy that I miss so bad! Since I work it is very difficult to see him during the week (she is about an hour away from in the opposite direction of work). She has recently discussed preparation of a formal separation. Not sure if I should seek the advice of a lawyer before it or not also.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)