if you are divorcing your wife in the hope's of snapping her out of her funk...you can forget that....they will take the road of least resistance and leave us in the dust
that is what you will get, a divorce. I know what that feeling is like. here you sit M to someone who is openly having an affair. It kills you at the very core of your soul.
we think the d will bring closure and end the pain. nope. the WAS reasons the marriage dead years ago(in fact you will that figure change b'fore your eyes) so they are doing no wrong. they have strange ways of compartmentalizing these parts of their lives. and they would like someone else to do the dirty deed for them
If you have any thought of restoring your M, backing her into a corner will not work. short of moving on and GAL, anything else prolongs the crisis.
Snodderly and BND are 2 of the wisest people we have. My M got restored becuse of me following BND's guidance
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Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
