Ali we have kept e-mailing since last September. I cut way back though in July as I felt the need for myself. That is when I started really getting pulled by this connection because in my own way I was fighting it.

Also in August is when I started to get flashes of his feelings. So finally it all is starting to make sense! His birthday was Saturday and I sent him a card with a small reminder of our past. I figured it couldn't hurt.

The stuff that you discover with regards to BF and Helen will still hurt a bit but it is so good that he is still willing to talk to you about it and reassure you. I don't think he sees her as OW because she sort of filled a gap in time while you were apart. Of course you see her as such because she kept you apart longer. I am just thrilled for you that things continue to get better.

hugs, kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory