You are still so young and will be able to build another relationship with the one you love.
I find it more difficult if one is older. I just talked to a GF who is about 10 years younger than I but has a BF who is my age. She said that she would never move in with anybody anymore since at our age one has certain habits and it is difficult to live with somebody since adjusting to each other is hardly possible. But at your age it is much easier.
I find it increadibly hard to find Mr Right. I had trouble finding my XH in the first place since I am so fussy, and now it is much harder.
So I wish you good luck and all the happiness in the world. Take care. xxx
I tried to post to you yesterday, but everything blocked on me.... I was happy to hear that you were still out on the dating adventure...I know it can be hard and disappointing...I too have had to deal with some strange things...
What I find is that, if and when you loose your heart to someone, then some things seem to melt infront of the sun...my new man lives about an hour and a half away, and it makes it hard to see each other...of course it keeps it exciting, but I long to be closer...to wake up next to him and say good night to him in person...
For now this is fine, then we can all adjust...but in time I truly hope we can share a 'home'...and be together. Of course I may not end up with him, but for now I am enjoying what is blooming between us...(and yes, at times I am scared to death...as I do not want to get hurt again, then again, you can't love if you don't give your heart completely...)
I too wish you all the luck and happiness in the world, cause you deserve it so much !!!!! xxxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Do your kids ever wonder why you do nor want to be around OW do they realize you do not like her or do they think all is just ok all the way around with you OW and H just curious as I am still struggling in this area THanks peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
To answer your question...The kids know that I do not wish to see ow because she is not someone I like very much. I have explained to them that sometimes in life there are people you just don't get along with, and that ow is one of those.... they know I was hurt by ow's (and H's) actions and therefore chose not to have her in my life, BUT....they also know that I totally accept her in THEIR lives....(sounds complicated, but the kids seem to deal with this very well, they know exactly where the boundary lies this way...)
I have also told them that maybe one day in the future I may accept ow and will politely deal with her as such, but for now that is not the case...
I hope to have answered your question peace....How are you ???!!!
Lots of love to you xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Hello Cinders You sound so great! its nice to pop in here and read happy posts, because we all sure remember how it use to be! How wonderful you have found a good man ! he must be very special, as you are, from reading your posts the last few years. He is a lucky man for sure
Believe me, my fiance and I live about 2 hrs from each other, in the 3 yrs we've been together its not once stopped us! lol sure it would be nicer to be close but when we get together on weekends it makes it that much sweeter and we appreciate it! So do not let that stop you if its what you both want
Best wishes on a wonderful future!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
yeah anyone messes with our Cinders heart and he will have to answer to us all!!!!!
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Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hey Cinders...I do wish you the best! You sound so great!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
