Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hey girls... I really want to keep posting if it helps, especially as I am sure theres more to uncover.

I discovered something new on holiday. Remember I was upset he took her for a weekend in Wales at BMF? Well seems they dropped in on another old BMF on the way (my exBF in fact! The one that treated me badly and made bf realise he was in love with me and wanted to wrestle me away from that guy)..I know its daft, but it adds more hurt. Still, he couldnt be more reassuring, so like all the rest of it, I just have to ...let it go.

Kat, no problem! So that guy was helpful? And he was sure Mr flirt is still thinking of you? Its been over a year hasnt it since you spoke..could you get in touch? Send him a funny card or something??

GAG, thanks so much, its such a short time really, but feels like a lifetime too! I thought it was interesting that he basically said his depression made him unable to take care of himself or do the right thing by himself, he couldnt stress enough, he just didnt care, that he was very self destructive. But even with all that, he know deep down he still loved me and although he missed me terribly, he couldnt face coming back because of the effort it would take to fix it. I presume he then started dating Helen at that point, as it may have seemed an easier option and besides, he just didnt think about it, he literally fell into headlong and once he had, he found it very very hard to extricate himself. Men are such idiots !

I will check out your threads later today. xxx