Our marriage therapist explained to me personally, after 6 months of marriage therapy and 11 years of his bs, that I just needed to move on. He needed help and he refused to embrace the concept. She told me I needed to take control of my life because he knew how to manipulate me.
After I kicked him out, he came by every night. I started to live a life on his weekends. I didn't date just went out with other people that he didn't know. Shockingly, he kept getting too sick to drive carpool on his weekends. He would text me he was sick could I drive his carpool? I would have to leave my only evenings out early to drive his carpool. Then I would find him sleeping in my bed.
So what do I have today? A person who sleeps in my bed. A person who has way too much baggage and has no interest in addressing any of it. A person who makes mucho money but seems to have to travel at the last minute -- especially when I have told him about my pre-planned events. I could go on and on about what I have, but it is useless.
Go out with the cute from Match.com. Do what you feel. If you continue to follow his lead, you will end up with what I have -- an unhappy nothing that snores.
