Seeing other women is this a good or bad thing..?

[seeking sanity]

I think there is good advice here. I read what some other guys are posting about staying 'true' to their marriages when the WAW has left for an affair partner. And then I think about what a wuss I was when we separated the first time, and how unnecessary it was for me to hold myself up to some standard that she didn't.

So yeah, date. Do whatever you want to do. You don't owe her any explanation. I would caution, tho, that you don't involve the kids. Personally, I have a policy that my kids NEVER meet any woman I'm dating. I'm a ken doll, as far as they are concerned.

The change does have to come from you. You can't fake it.

Also, just to mentally prepare you, I'd assume the EA is a PA from my personal experience. They all lie about this. Assume the worst. It's better for you in the long run. And I've found it's always as bad or worse than you think.