Seeing other women is this a good or bad thing..?

[GH31]

This meeting with her is exciting me and I am pretty sure it would lead to a PA.

What is the advice?
Has anyone done this?

Yes.

I have. I slept with two other women during the time my W and I were separated. I also flew to the other side of the world to where we were at the time, ceased all contact with her and tried to rebuild my life.

My WAW utterly hated the fact that I had "moved on so quickly" and wasn't "mourning her enough". This was after she had moved out and into OM's house. I said to her softly over the phone "W, I mean this with the greatest of respect but your position is hypocritical beyond belief. I didn't want you to go, but you did", to which she replied "I know".

I asked her "Why would you give a ***k?" and told her she had given up the right to have any influence over my life the day she gave her heart and her genitals to another man.

I meant every word of it.

The way I see it is this. If your W has made her own decision to wipe her butt with your marriage covenant, do whatever you want. Correct whatever was wrong in your marriage and implement your 180s. Do it consistently and do it for you, otherwise she will accurately see it as a manipulative ploy to "win her back". You must change. You cannot experience this pain which was occasioned as a result of your choices during the marriage and not make some permanent changes to your life so that you never experience it again.

I wish you the best.

GH31