So, I broke the nc and sent her an email saying how I need to move on to a healthy lifestyle. That might seem manipulative in that I don't want the M to end. But I no longer have the energy to stay so obsessed with her. I feel she needs to know that I'm not chasing her any more and that I'm focusing on my own health.
It always seems to be about how she feels any more. I keep reaching out and she knocks me back. No more. My life has got to be about me and she has to know that. Basically, if she wants to be my friend, she will have to act like one.
Exactly. I told my W something similar - and she did respond to it. But, for both of us, need to show it, not tell.
I don't think it's manipulative, I think it's healthy to realize.
How do you have NC with your W with kids?
_________________________ Me-41 W-39 M-15 yrs T-17 yrs D-12 S-9 S-8 B 5/08 S 1/09
