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I can't think of one good thing he is bringing her and maybe that is why he stays away so much.


I do believe this too. I would almost guarantee that he hates himself, and thinks, what do I have to give to her...nothing. (of course he's not going to convey this to other people though)

and until he starts having some kind of pride in himself, or love for himself and his life, or real love for his D, he's not going to try to change. He probably feels whats the use, nothings going to change anyways, and the addiction feeds into him a temporary fix for his problem.

I'm glad that you weren't devastated when you saw them in the parking lot.

Again, most of everything you post is about him. You did cover yourself and mention some positives, so good job. smile just keep doing that. True, you need to record all these things he's doing, but we want your focus AWAY from him, not all over him. so keep trying, it will get better.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."