Just want to say that it took a divorce before I realized that I exhibited a lot of the disrespectful, dismissive behavior you describe in him. I'm going to counseling on my own hook and hope I can change and that she'll see it; I don't want to be the guy you describe anymore. I wish you luck whichever way it goes; if I had the chance to go to counseling with her right now I'd jump at it. He's got to be willing to make the changes for him first and if he isn't then MC would probably just be a place for hime to vent.

Good luck.

Ron

M: 47
W: 50
D: 19
S: 16
Grandson: 21 months (now officially our son)
Married: 10/2/89
Divorced: 7/31/09
XW moved back home 11/12
Re-married 5/25/10