Bewildered

[KiwiMan]

Hi Gyn,

There was definatley improvement when using the 180 technique and going dark, but then i would stuff it up by bringing up the relationship again.

I have actually just been thinking alot over the last few days... after reading more of the DR book.

And to be totally honest, its only been about a month since she walked out but I think I have reached a point where I don't actually want her back, even if she asked to come back now.


I think I was more angry at the time about her leaving because it upset my current life situation. And its made me realise that I was probably too dependant on her in the marriage. And I have come to realise that she as a person cannot give me what I need in the relationship.

SHe has also said recently that her head is a mess at the moment but the one thing she is sure about is her decision to leave me.

I feel really good about this and I do not even have an urge to find out what she is doing.

I actually feel like telling her that she had her chance and now I do not want her back... ever...

Its tempting but probably something I shouldn't say.