Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[Thinker]

etrain,

I'm sorry to hear that. Take the time and privacy to feel the pain. You say you are fighting back the tears - well stop and let em . I know I sure had to at times.

There is a wealth of advice on these boards for exactly the position you are in. I'm not the best to give it, not having gone through a separation, but others are. Look for Robx.

The summary of the advice is:

- Let her separate, but she should own the separation, not you. She moves out. It's on her to work through the logistics, find a place, figure out how to finance it, etc.

- The S should be like a D. Model the financial arrangement as you would a D. Don't enable her.

- Go Dark.

- GAL GAL GAL

- Man up, be strong, and stand up for yourself.

You can do it.