Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[Ready2Change]

Got it. Just listen.
I'm actually a good listener. Now the compassion & empathy part might be difficult...but I can do this.

Yes you can do it. If I can do it, so can you. Takes some practice. The book "Radical forgiveness" is a very good read.

Here is my condensed version:

The past is over, so let go of the resentment.
The resentment only hurts YOU.
Forgive yourself as well as others for the past hurt.
DO NOT KEEP PUNISHING YOURSELF for things that have already happened. Let it go. It feels amazing! Keep doing this over and over for the rest of your life. The guy that cut you off this morning. He has no idea he even hurt you. Why hold on to the anger? Works the same for all the hurt in you life....


The future is not here yet.
Do not let the FEAR control your actions in the present.
Wife said she wants D. Do not let the FEAR of D control your actions NOW. Facing your fear gives you control of your thoughts words and actions in the present.

So, know what you want. Stay in the present. Before MC, while alone, get on your knees and send W blessings. Think as many positive thoughts about W as you can. If negative feelings come, feel them, then forgive W. Give up control to God.

Change your thought process, and your actions and words will follow. Take accountability in your role in the R. Realize W reacts to your actions. Feel your hurt, and then realize W is hurting just as bad. Imagine W as someone else, maybe a close friend talking about someone else (not you).