A couple of questions to all the WAS

[alexjadams]

Lodo

1st my response was meant to anger ant WAS into a response

When I’m being attacked I tend defend or explain myself even if the other person can't see where i'm coming from (to get it off my chest)

2nd I've cast that stone because most of it is true (I said most)

If they weren't used to running away as a way with coping they would have stayed in thier marriages

I agree with you in a Physical abusive relationship

But leaving because "my spouse doesn't understand me" don't float for me most of us don't understand or know what we want but yet expect our spouses to know

I was hoping to get a WAS who has worked thru their issues to take a moment and answer honestly

But once they run away for a OP then that relatioship doesn't work out they try to block out any part of that experience in their life as if it never happen
some of them (like when they say & do what they do to the LBS) chose to forget things that has happen or that was said
trust me I understand that, & I wish I can forget my own experience with this but I can't and you know what it made me who I am today!

I respect a WAS who can come here in stand in the face of a LBS and take all that crap!

I guess you would say a convict who killed someone doesn't deserve a second chance? I guess you might change your mind if that was your spouse, child, parent, or sibling?

But if you say they deserved a 2nd chance, would you want them to repent to any or everybody (kind of like how Mike Vick has to go to schools talking about how dog fighting is wrong)

Now are we mean as a society to expect him to do that? & if we aren't why can't WAS to do the same or should we just leave him alone and not force him to repent

You can read thru any post of a LBS & they all are repenting

Just wanted to give a WAS a chance too