It is your decision, and I'll support whatever one you make..
Course if this is how you always handled it, a 180 would be not always dumping the decision it in their lap.
HOWEVER, Kidding...what worried me right now is that your asking these questions about communications with your Wife...when many of us feel your should be learning the fine art of STFU!
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK