Originally Posted By: are you kidding
Framing a statement with a can or would,that's asking vs controling isn't it?

Example:

please don't quit. "don't tell me what to do!"

Can you please not quit?

I'll get with you all later...

Can I get back to you?



Or you could say.....

It is your decision, and I'll support whatever one you make..


Since this is slightly hypothetical anyway....