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[awest1217]

I completely agree LolaL, but in his world, I am the one who caused him to leave in the first place (somewhat true, as it says in DB I did have things that I did to cause the affair and I will take responsibility for it). He also says since nothing happened physically, he still has a hard time saying it was an affair. He always says it was too closely connected. I agree he needs to cut her out completely and he even says he knows that is what he should do, but he can't because she is the only one who he trusts to take care of him. I am praying I can gain his trust and then he will be more willing to end it completely. At some point, she will have to be gone. He just needs to come to that realization on his own this time, otherwise it will be another, "W told me what to do and she is too controlling". I know this is stupid and not true, but it is what has happened in the past so I am trying a new route with the new me.

I am much stronger now, and he is trying so prayerfully it will be good.