The only thing she said to me, is she can't make me happy any more and i need to finish my own thought.
i think by saying i love you too much to her and kids, instead of them just knowing i need to love 'em, they took it as i loved 'em because i needed them.
i used to tell all 3 of them 50 times a nite, i loved 'em.
i think they all felt like they had to respond, with love you back.
i would lose my independence when i got home, i dropped everything to be with wife, but no i didn't look for validation, but i didn't want to do very much without her or without us as a group.
she would look to me for validation. she'd always say, "is that wrong?"
The only thing she said to me, is she can't make me happy any more and i need to finish my own thought.
Was she trying to make you happy by filling your need for attention? Even if she felt she felt she was...her perspective is valid too.
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i think by saying i love you too much to her and kids, instead of them just knowing
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i used to tell all 3 of them 50 times a nite, i loved 'em.
i think they all felt like they had to respond, with love you back.
It's good to be told ILY. When someone says it all the time, it has a very needy quality about it. That many times a day, week etc. falls into needy IMO. It somes off as a constant need to be reassured.
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i would lose my independence when i got home, i dropped everything to be with wife, but no i didn't look for validation, but i didn't want to do very much without her or without us as a group.
Again, IMO being to insulary as a couple (even if you both fall into a pattern) is not good and can get to dangerous.
If you go out and do things with friends or even by yourself, you have something to bring back to the R. I know that with kids and all you are amking memories and all, but to have your own interests makes for a much more intersting and happy life.
Why do you think she asked "is that wrong?" What was your response if something happened or was said that you thought was wrong?
